THREE THINGS MEN THAT ARE IN LOVE DO!

THREE THINGS MEN THAT ARE IN LOVE DO!

 One of the major challenge ladies have and which on many occasion I have been asked is, “How do you know when a man loves you?”

Here are three things a man that loves you and have you in his plans for future will do to show you he loves:

v PROFESS

If your man loves you, he will be willing to tell anybody and everybody, “Look, this is my woman,” or “My lady” or “my girl.” In other words, you will have an official title, one that far extends beyond “this is my friend” or “this is.................. (Insert your name).” This is because the man that has placed you in the most special part of his heart – the man who truly has feelings for you – will give you a title. When a man professes you, he is indirectly laying claim to you. He sees himself in a long-term committed relationship with you, and telling all those that matter to him that he is serious about you. (Watch it: if you know he/she isn’t the one for you they got no business meeting your parents, and likewise you meeting theirs!) So if you are dating a guy for 6 months (90days is what Steve Harvey recommends) and you never meet his mother, you don’t go to church together, you haven’t been around his family or his friends, and he took you to events and introduce you without an official title or by name plainly, then know it, he’s got no plans for you!

v PROVIDE

Society has told us men for millennium that our primary function is to make sure our families are well cared for... that the people we love need want for nothing. As a provider, a man pays the bills that have to be paid; he buys groceries; he pay school tuition; and take care of household expenditures. He will not spend his money on trifling things and come to you with what’s left. And a man who truly loves you will never make you ask for money for necessities! Because every pat on the back, every kiss he gets, every bits of appreciation he gets for doing those things boost his prowess as a man. That’s why, if he’s a real man, he will always put buying something for himself far below his responsibility to provide for his family (seeing you as a major stakeholder).

Now, know that expecting a man to care for you financially in an age in which women have been raised to be financially independent of men gives you a pause. If you have been taught to pull out your ATM or check book when it comes to paying your bills on a date, and have been repeatedly told that men can’t be depend on for anything, then this might be difficult. For sure all too many men shirk this responsibility, whether out of selfishness, stupidity or sheer inability or a combination of all. But some men simply do not have the education. The term gold-digger is one of the traps we men set to keep you off our money, we want to have our money and still get everything (love) we want from you without you asking for or expecting this. Know this: it is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, or whatever else he has to pay for in exchange for your time.

Now, there are different ways to provide besides monetary. Your man could be broke but he’s gonna do everything within his power to make up for this by supplying your needs in other tangible ways... this is where a lady must show understanding. Your car broke down, he may not be able to pay for a mechanic, but he can call his buddies over to help him move your ride to the side of the road and gives you rides to work until it is repaired.

v PROTECT

There is not a real man living who will not protect what is His. It’s about RESPECT!

Protection isn’t about brute or physical force, if it is thugs and gangsters will be the best men to marry for security purpose, but when a man truly love and cares for you, he will protect you in other ways either in advice, or stepping up to perform a task he considered too dangerous for you. Example, I have a mentor that though he is over fifty will always escort his wife to the bus every morning because of harassment from petty thieves. A word of caution: ladies don’t be upset by his drama of being over protective... that’s one major way he is trying to show you, that you mean a future to him.

I firmly believed that a real woman can bring out the best in a man; sometimes we need only meet a real woman other than our own mother to bring out our best qualities. That means the woman got to demand that every man must stand and deliver! Never say that there aren’t any good men to do these, it may look like that because there aren’t many ladies or women that expect these of their men. I bet you, when you raise the standard you see your men living up to it.

Men beware, the ladies are aware of these now!

 #Oluthomas
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