5 Things You Need To Do Before You
Start A
Relationship...
A relationship is a very serious
business that
requires effort, time, passion, trust,
commitment, energy, mind,
resources, ideas,
knowledge, wisdom, and the list
goes on
and on. Its not a playing ground but a
thing
of the mind. Its not for babies but for
the
matured minds. So do we have what
it takes
to be in a relationship? That should
be a
personal question. You need
knowledge on
what it takes so you don’t miss it.
Proverbs
19: 20 says "Hear counsel, and
receive
instruction, that thou mayest be
wise in thy
later end”. Wisdom can come from
knowing
yourself more, reading books,
attending
seminars, etc.
A man was talking to
me about
his relationship and he was
mentioning so
many instances where the girl had
acted in
some ways he didn’t like. How he
wanted to
correct and change her and so on
and so
forth. I later realized that he also had
some
personal problems the lady has been
warning him about. What does that
mean? It
means, we all have some attitudes
our
partners are trying to cope with or
work on.
We are not so perfect yet we search
for the
perfect being.
So what do you need
to start a
relationship?………..
1. Work On Yourself: So many have
manners
and attitudes that can destroy a
relationship.
We simply need to search our lives.
Let’s
work on behaviours that are not
healthy.
Let’s be ready to be corrected, to be
humble
and to give to another. Being in a
relationship is a one way thing. You
give and
you take. You give your support,
care ,
attention, advice etc and you should
get it in
return. Be willing to adjust to make
your
relationship work. Be willing to be
with one
person and no other. Be ready to
plan
towards a life time commitment. Be
ready to
take up your responsibility and so
many
other things. We are different so we
have to
work on setting a balanced pace. Let
me ask
you this: ” If you knew yourself like
you
know it now, would you want to
marry a
person like you?”.
2. Be Ready To Accept The
Differences: Don’t
always think that your partner would
think,
talk, act and listen like you do. They
are
different from you. Stop trying to
change it
all. Don’t try to be controlling. Learn
each
other’s love languages and maintain
a good
and balanced relationship.
3. Be Ready To Close Your Eyes To
Other
Distractions:Being in a relationship
will
require your commitment. There
would
always be other guys and ladies out
there so
don’t try to date everyone. You
shouldn’t be
dating 10 ladies because they are for
different location. One in your office,
school,
church, surroundings, long distance ,
all at
the same time. It doesn’t work that
way. You
can’t be in love with all at the same
time. Its
only shows that you don’t know
what you
want for yourself. Be a man about it.
4. Discover Your Purpose: This is so
important too. You need to know
your
calling, ministry, career , etc before
you jump
into a relationship. Your partner is
meant to
complement you but how do you
know who
fits if you don’t know your purpose.
God
gives us a person that suits our life.
You have
to discover your purpose and
understand it
well, so as to know what you want
and who
you will end up with. Most of us will
keep
jumping from one girl or man to
another
due to lack of indecision and
maturity.
5. Allow God Direct You: When you
are about
to start, you need to know God’s
mind about
the person. Seek the face of God to
avoid
going in and jumping out. You don’t
want to
hit the fence with your head, so let
God lead,
while you follow. He knows who
suits you
well. You don’t need to date from
your
secondary school. Just do things at
the right
time.
Culled from Positive Minds group on facebook posted by Bulus Shehu
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