Drunk in Lust: Why Waiting to Have Sex With Someone is Worth it

Drunk in Lust: Why Waiting to Have Sex With Someone is Worth it

Waiting to have sex with your significant other may be hard, but it’s worth it. Here’s why:

Amazing sex requires a certain level of trust.

And, as I’m sure you know, trust takes time to develop. Only the naive trust strangers — and you never want to marry someone who’s so naive.

Naive people in love fail to see reality. They stick to a fairytale understanding they’ve created for themselves. The relationship will inevitably fail.

Great sex is possible only when both people in the relationship feel comfortable enough to trust the other completely... pledging and giving themselves to each other till death do them part.

The only way to get to this level of comfort is to build up trust. And that, my friends, takes time. There are no shortcuts.

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Curiosity builds excitement.

And curiosity is sparked by complex and genuine interest.

How curious are you when you meet an attractive person? Very curious. How do you feel when you realize that the more you get to know the person, the more curious about him or her you become?

That’s what falling in love is.

The more you get to know someone, the more you want to learn. While sexual intimacy is important, the focus must remain on the intimacy you’re building in conversation.

You need to get the other person excited. And you don’t do this through touch. Instead, prove that you’re unlike anyone this person has ever met before. He or she will want to get to know you on a psychological level.

The more complex this person’s desire becomes, the more excited you’ll both grow. And that’s when sex becomes incredible. If you rush to sex and skip this “foreplay,” the sex won’t reach its potential... Marriage!

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Mind-blowing sex requires mutual respect.

One of the main problems with rushing into sex is that it gives the idea that the relationship exists just for sex.

Could you ever truly respect someone who you believed was using you? No, you couldn’t. I hope not.

You both need to feel you’re treated well. You need to make sure you're together forever. The only way to do that is to take the time to get to know each other.

The thought that you might be using the other person for sex is very damaging.

You begin to look at each other differently, think about each other differently and approach the relationship differently.

Having sex too soon could kill the relationship before it even starts.

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You want to find love in order to make love.

It’s not all about the sex.

Moving too fast could ruin a potentially beautiful thing. This is almost always the case. While hot, sweaty, dirty sex may seem a whole lot of fun, you eventually want to make love.

This isn’t to say that you want the first time you sleep together to be love-making — that’s waiting too long — but you want to make sure you both have an idea it could happen in the future.

Having sex too soon is the fastest way to kill the potential you have to truly make love... in marriage. It kills the mystery. It makes you question the other’s intent. It makes your first time a little awkward and less than ideal.

To be completely honest, you should have the willpower to keep it in your pants.

Keep it in there until both of you make the the lasting commitment before God legally, and I can guarantee that your chances at love will increase tenfold.

Originally appeared at Elite Daily By Paul Hudson ... edited.

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