Any kind of rejection, no matter if it's in love, your career, friends,
a book proposal or anything else, is not something that should affect
how happy you are. Rejection doesn't feel great and sometimes it feels
unfathomable but it shouldn't be something you permit to take away
happiness from your life. The reality of life is that rejection will
form a part of it–there will be occasions when your job application,
your date request or your ideas for change will be rejected by someone,
somewhere. It is a healthy attitude to accept that rejection is a part
of life and to acknowledge that what really matters is finding the way
to bounce back and try again.
* Have an appropriate grieving Period. You are going to feel upset because of a rejection, whether it's having your manuscript rejected, an idea rejected, being rejected by a potential romantic partner. You are allowed to be upset about that, and in fact, it is healthy for you to give yourself some time to process and grieve.
* Talk it over with a Trusted Friend/Family member. Don't whine, don't get dramatic about it. They will help you grieve reasonably. Warning: Avoid getting on the social media to air your grievances.
* Accept the rejection early. The earlier you come to terms with it; the easier and faster you move on from it.
* Don't take rejection Personally. Remember that the rejection says nothing about you as a person. Getting rejected is part of life and it is not a personal attack on you or your personality.
* Re-frame the Rejection. People who talk about being rejected tend to take rejections more poorly than people who re-frame it. Instead of saying, "They rejected me," Say, "They say No." or "It didn't work out." this removes blame from you and the other partner.
* Do something else to take your mind off it. Do something fun. Play games, hang out, or go visiting. You need to get your mind off the rejection after the appropriate grieving time. You can't afford to let rejection bring your life to a screeching halt.
* Don't allow rejection to control your future. Rejection is part of life trying to avoid it or dwelling on it will make you very unhappy. You future depend on your positive attitude toward rejection.
* Use Rejection to Improve. Sometimes rejection is a wake-up call, and can help you improve your life. If you can ask the person who rejected you to give you some feedback on why they weren't interested, you can use their answer to improve except its just a personal preference.
Lastly, remember you are not entitle to a 'yes' response all the time. People are entitle to their choice of yes or no, and when they make use of it in whatever way that concerns or affect you, don't be discouraged. Remember you too had used and will still continue to use the power of your choice in either saying Yes (accepting) or No (rejecting) to other people's ideas or proposers. Therefore, be gentle to others and come to terms with other people's NO as graciously as possible.
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