UNRESPECTED
Our society tend to
respect "the married" than singles.
They believe when you are still
single, you are not serious. A friend
once asked me online " Bose igba wo
ni wedding e" (when is your wedding) and I said " mi o ti se
tan" (I'm not ready), guess what was his reply, he said
O SERIOUS (You are un-serious)... so people believe, those
that are single are the unserious
and are people that are not ready for
responsibilities. That is why people
respect married man or woman of
21years than 31years old who is
unmarried...
Another example is my Pastor and the Reverend, the way they respect and treat
married who are much more younger
than I do is quite different from the
way they treat me who is even more closer to them...
So the society don't give much respect
the unmarried.
The good aspect of it÷ Life is in phase,
we have the positive and the
negative side likewise the good and
the bad in the issue of waiting.
One enjoy waiting when God has
place a task before you and you are able to understand it and carry it out. In my own case I had some
younger girls with me, I do take them to
life changing programmes and or meetings, and their positive response
and feedback gives me joy. I usually put them
through on their various projects, I taught them a lot of things
related to life and health too, though it is tasking, but I must confess, I enjoy every bit of it!
Secondly waiting period is when you
engage yourself in acquiring more
skills and also in knowledge.
Thirdly waiting period is when you
mingle, have fun with singles like
yourself either around or on social
network because when you are
married there are limitations to your mingles.
The bad aspect
* Almost everyone thinks when you are due
for marriage and you are still single
(unmarried), you are having problem (spiritually).
* You will lack being respected
* You might might be made to feel ashamed
* Also with Feeling inferior to the married
especially when you are the last
person standing.
You may not enjoy your waiting if you
don't have Dreams, Vision, or focus in life, and to carry that out you need a great supernatural power in you. Jesus the Christ is the one am presenting to you. All you need
to do now is invite him into your life. He can
give you new hope, He can comfort
you, and give you self esteem when
are others looking down on you...
Advice: * Get married on time if you have the
opportunity, medically it is good.
* Waiting is fun most times, when the time of waiting is invested wisely.
WHAT HAS MARRYING LATE TAUGHT ME
Conclusively marrying late has really open my eyes
to a lot of things in life both physically
and spiritually which is now being of help and which will continue to be of help
to me in the future. The first thing I will
love to identify is
* It has really improve my spiritual
life (prayer life and the
knowledge of the word of God)
* It has given me a clear
vision and understanding of what lies ahead.
* It has help me to cope with different people and tolerate them.
* It has prepare me for womanhood.
* My getting close to
the married while still single and unmarried expose me to a large extent what
marriage is all about through observation and various varying experience of friends and colleagues. though each marriage is unique, there common grounds!
written by Mrs. Abosede Omowumi Olu-Thomas.
edited.
Your views are most welcome...
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