8 REASONS YOU MAY END UP CHOOSING THE WRONG MARRIAGE PARTNER

8 REASONS YOU MAY END UP CHOOSING THE WRONG MARRIAGE PARTNER

 

1.       Other’s Approval of the Person: This is like choosing the person they want for you. Wait! It is necessary for some people to agree to some extent with our choice, but the sole responsibility of choice, lies with you! You are responsible for who you choose to marry. No one else! So why marry out of your own will and desire? God himself will never force you to accept His will, why should Man force you or think they have power to do that? Wisdom demands that it is not what people say that is IMPORTANT, but what your conviction is. If you are not convinced don’t allow the conviction of your parents or friends push you into marriage with a wrong person.

2.   Satisfying one’s Sexual Desire: marriage is not a solution to fornication or a way out of adultery, because marriage is more than sex! Yes, marriage was ordained as the right situation in which natural instinct and affection implanted by God will be rightfully fulfilled, but choosing a partner basically because of chemistry or sexual affections is not right. Marriage won’t cure your inordinate sexual desires and lust, if it would, the rate of divorce which is caused by adultery wouldn’t have existed. Since it exists, it shows us that marriage does not solve sexual problems at all.  Sexual problems must be cure by decision and discipline.

3.   Sympathy or Pity: marriage demand the responsibility of humility from the wife and love from the husband to make a perfect home, pity will not allow this instructions to be followed. The one that showed the pity will want a total act of appreciation from his or her partner. If you don’t want to be enslaved, refuse to be married out of pity, it’s worse than slave trade! People who want to be pitied never live a life of freedom. Marriage is not and should not be taken as an act of compensation from a fellow human being.

4.   Pregnancy or out of Wedlock: getting pregnant for someone does not bond you into a must marriage, abortion isn’t an option for getting pregnant out of wedlock, but marrying someone because of the mistake is a worst mistake. Children don’t guarantee a peaceful home and it does not determine the level of your love for each other. In Africa, parents are usually the motivator of this kind of union, because of the desire that their children must marry whoever they have baby with. As two wrongs don’t make a right, so is two mistakes don’t atone for each other. Having a baby out of wedlock is a temporary mistake, but choosing to marry the wrong person because a child is involved is making the ultimate mistake!

5.   Good Look: looks are important in choosing a marriage partner, but beauty is only in the eyes of the beholder. Most people allow themselves to be trapped into a wrong relationship with a wrong person because of good looks! Charm or beauty could hide a person’s ugly acts. But good character is what could endear one to others permanently. Don’t use your beauty as a cover up, build good character along!

6.   Money: money can buy you all that you can dream of, but doesn’t have the power to give you perfect enjoyment of it! If you marry a person for the sake of money, your love life will be regulated by gifts and money. Money is necessary in any marriage, but what determines peace of the home is love not money. If you have love and God, you are good to marry; because where there is love, God is there, and where God is, everything will work well.

7.     Long Dating or Courtship: No matter how long a courtship is, don’t ever agree to go into marriage if you are not convinced to do so. Courtship period is a time to study and develop understanding. However, if it does not work out please, break out! But many can’t do this without a flint, because sexual intercourse had been included. Sex in courtship creates bond that is difficult to break even when one foresee danger about the relationship. The “we have dated too long and it will be unfair of me to say no now” syndrome must not lock you into managerial marital life. Beware!

8.     Time & Age: marriage is not a part time thing. It is for life, why then agree to marry anybody because time is gone or you are getting old? No religion give a right age to marry, it is the society that dictates the average marriage age, but not everybody fits into such general mold. It is better to marry late and marry right than to marry early but wrongly.

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