COMPLIMENTS

COMPLIMENTS: Are You Proud, Modest or Humble?

      The three boys left for the occasion as directed by their father, the second born decided to play a prank on the eldest, who he perceive to be proud or modest. So at the occasion, as they were being served fried rice and turkey, the second born signaling to the last of them, told the servers or waiters in the hearing of every one present that the eldest doesn’t eat turkey! The eldest seeing that people had focus on him expecting to hear if its true, got carried away by the attention, and said, “yes, I don’t like eating turkey its too soft for me!” yes! He is done…

      So he was not served and nobody could give him something to eat.  Everybody was eating, pride or modesty kept the eldest out, yet he was seriously hungry! He had said he doesn’t eat turkey and there is no other menu apart from that except water. They got home individually because of trouble, as the eldest seek to beat the younger ones and the younger ones will not be intimidated stop their now higher form of mockery.

      Everybody wants to be loved and respected, and some resolve to silently seek this out of all of their relationships, but many overtly demand it even by force. While this is not the best approach, that of hidden demand and seeking, (Modesty) Is most dangerous, because it is a kind of manipulation of the highest order yet so hidden that very few people can identify it without any problem.

      According to Longman dictionary of contemporary English, third edition, says modesty in spoken form “used to say that you do not want to seem too proud of something you have done when in fact you are!” this is sometimes refers to as false modesty but actually this is the main form of modesty we have today. The other form is in it active/action form… it is not spoken and not actually done for all to see, but people are the best judge of it as modesty.

      While the same dictionary describe humility as the quality of not being too proud about yourself! This is a state in which the power of PRESTIGE has been broken totally!

      The problem now comes when you try to pay people compliments… those that are proud will readily accept and even volunteer for more, those that are humble will accept it willing not as if looking for approval, but with assurance of the knowledge that the compliments are true, while those that are Modest will reject it out rightly even though they wanted it badly, knowing fully well that the person who pay such compliment will naturally want to EXPANTIATE on it the more, thereby telling them or paying more compliment to them. This is a subtle, manipulative way of assertion while still pretending being humble.

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