Marriage: why marry?
Marriage
is a life union between a man and a woman.[1]
According to Britannica encyclopedia, Marriage is, “a legally and socially sanctioned union, usually between a man and a
woman, that is regulated by laws, rules, customs, beliefs, and attitudes that
prescribe the rights and duties of the partners and accords status to their
offspring (if any).”[2]
Fusion
When
marriage takes place, there is fusion of the man and the woman and this fusion
makes them one in spirit. This makes marriage more spiritual than any other
institution. The fusion makes their spiritual strength increase to the extent
that nothing can be impossible for them to achieve if they were united.
Deuteronomy 32:30 says, one shall chase
1,000 and two shall pursue 10,000! But divorce and homosexuality has dealt
a great blow on this great mystery, but what must be understood is that the
problem is not with institution, but we people that uses the institution.
Purpose
When
the purpose of something is not known, abuse is inevitable goes the popular saying, so therefore I will try
to state the PRIMARY purpose of marriage here. Note that there are other
purposes which I will tagged derived purposes,
but only one can be the primary and that is the only acceptable reason to marry,
at least to me and those that really understand the reason for it in the first
place. A primary purpose of anything is
the need that arose to which such thing was/is invented to tackle or deal with.
What primary purpose then does marriage fulfill? Going through any Church
wedding ceremony the primary purpose is clearly stated but people, and more
especially in Africa, pay little attention than what has been traditionally
believe. I know you don’t go to church but here it is:
Dear
beloved, we are assembled in the presence of God and this congregation to join
this man and woman in holy matrimony, which is honourable estate instituted by
God Himself, signifying unto us the mystical union that is between Christ and
His Church, a holy estate which Christ adorned and beautified with his presence
and his first miracle. He commanded in Cana of Galilee,
and is commanded in Holy Scriptures to be honourable
among men, and therefore is not taken in hand unadvisedly, wrongly or wantonly,
but in the fear of God. Duly considering the fear of God, duly considering the
cause for which matrimony was ordained.
It was ordained for companionship, help and comfort which husband and wife
ought to have for each other both in prosperity and adversity.
Summarily, it is for companionship,
help and comfort! Is that what we consider when we are making our choice, and
even after we have?
The
primary purpose of marriage is to have a help
meet to help you fulfill your purpose, no matter the gender! So both should
seek to fulfill their duty… help your spouse fulfill his/her shared vision and
known purposes. This is not impossible if we seek to do the primary thing,
COMPANIONSHIP! This means always find time to be with and talk, seek to know
and act to ease and make your time together worth it.
Never be too old to hold
hands
Never be too serious to
talk about little things
Never be too busy to look
into each other’s eye
Never be too grumpy to say
the three letter word
Never be too lazy to work
it out
Or be too complacent to do
again and again those things that meant so much to you before.
Marriage is meant to make
you better, not bitter; it is meant to make you happy not turn you to a hippie!
You
weren’t a judge here, neither did your chosen meant to make you the critic,
leave that for others. You are in a two man team now; watch out for the other
or his/her exit spell doom for you!
The Sole Reason Your Marriage Should
Exist Is For Companionship!
A Companionship That Seek To Help The
Other Fulfill His/Her Purpose!
[1]
Ojigbani, Chris, I Want to Marry You,
printed in United States of
America: xulonpress, 2005. pp17
[2] "Marriage" Encyclopædia
Britannica, Encyclopædia Britannica
Ultimate Reference Suite, Chicago: Encyclopædia
Britannica, 2012.
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