CHOICE AND DECISION MAKING BEFORE
WEDDING
Written by Peter Olu. Jacobs
There are too many tensions in the
world today. Things are just falling
apart, disagreement every where,
economic instability and political
crises are getting worse. This is the
era when people will slap you and
never mind whether you are hurt or
not, disappointment, cheating,
corruption, religion crises, physical
and mental violence are numerous.
Behind every good looking man or
woman is something else. People can
be irrational these days, and all these
things can tell on marriage.
Therefore, your decision on who you
will marry has to be well scrutinized
before making it. Gone are the days
when people will use the influence of
father to marry son, or influence of
church to get married. 99% of
facebook marriages don’t work out.
Nobody can predict what anybody can
do, yet, we have to get married to
someone!
CONDITIONS FOR MAKING DECISIONS
1. Decision making under frustration:
this is when someone is tired of every
alternative and just make a decision
without proper examination. E.g.” I’m
over age and there is nobody to
marry me”
2. Decision because there is no
alternative: e.g. “I’ve been expecting
someone to marry and nobody shows
up but here is a man though divorced
but he loves me”
3. Decision making when it’s difficult
to differentiate: this is when you have
different alternative and you have to
pick one e.g. “all the brothers/sisters
coming on your way are Christians,
good looking, caring and loving”.
Here, you have to know that not all
Christian brothers and sisters are
marriageable.
4. Decision making under confusion:
confusion is one of the worst thing
that can happen to a man in life,
because, you will never understand
the situation. Are you confused about
that man’s character? Or he’s not a
straight forward person? You have to
be very careful before you make your
decision on him.
5. Decision making because of
multitude: e.g. “all my mates have
been engaged but I’ve not"
6. Decision making because you don’t
want to offend people. E.g. parents,
siblings, friends, or relatives.
The only
way and the best that I can suggest to
you is HOLY SPIRIT. He can help and
reveal the deep thought of a man to
you. Holy Spirit answers to the name
of JESUS.
Release your thoughts, will and
wishes to Jesus today and Holy Spirit
will help you out. You can have a
silent prayer in your heart as you are
concluding this reading. Say “Lord
Jesus, the secret things belong to you,
but the things revealed to me belong
to me and for the good of my
marriage, therefore, I accept you as
my Lord and savior, let your holy spirit
take control of my life”. Amen.
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