EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY

 Affairs don't always involve hotel rooms and sneaky sexual liaison.

 

Emotional infidelity is the term that has been coin out by marriage counselors which means to be attached to someone emotionally while still married to another person. This is usually an unconscious action that is develop over time especially during intense emotionally talk or confidential talks. Because of its subtle nature many people are falling into it "Innocently".

Emotional Infidelity is actually define a a relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouses that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage. Neither sexual intercourse nor physical affection is necessary to impact the committed relationship of those involved.

Actually those who are susceptible to this are counselors, Pastoral care givers, but most commonly among colleagues at school or at work. it just start as an innocent friendship in which we share and talk about common or personal challenges, and on and on it goes till it becomes an habit or hobby. Naturally, these set of people get us drawing to them by their attention, listening ear, caring gentle words, hardly do they condemn us, if at all, they seem to be gentle to us 'cos they might be afraid of hurting us... these naturally draw us to them and we feel welcome in their presence.

The information sharing and spending time together chatting, jisting, sharing leads to distancing or withdrawals from their partner while feeling intimacy or emotionally attach with the new person.

The stat shows that one of the highest causes of infidelity in marriage is emotional infidelity! Those affected can’t even give any concrete reason they do it because they got caught up in it. Then their partners grew distant from them; they care less about them; or feel their partner care less even if such partner demand or seek ways of getting into their emotional psyche, they are blocked out 'cos someone else is occupying the space.

Signs:

• When there is someone you spend more time with than your spouse, you are in danger of this.

• When, you prefer to share your thoughts with someone else first, than your spouse be careful.

• When someone becomes your references at home, so... say this, he say that... then you are really into the person.

• When you find yourself making comparison between your spouse and the other person... then you are almost gone.
• When you find yourself taking extra time getting ready to IMPRESS a certain co-worker.
• When you find yourself daydreaming and fantasizing about the person.

• When you are having secret calls late in the night, or online chat long into the night, or long discussion after work etc with the same person almost every day…

Save your marriage... Beware of yourself!
It is good to share, but know your limits!
It may look like harmless flirting (which is bad for married people)... but it sure way to discontentment in marriage. In this one has emotionally left the marriage before proper divorce or separation.

Are you in such situation? Retrace your steps... find your attraction again in your partner... Be honest and Open!

#Oluthomas





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