27 ROMANTIC THINGS T0 DO TO YOUR WIFE

27 ROMANTIC THINGS T0 DO TO YOUR WIFE

*Always tells her u love her, only when u mean it and make sure she knows U mean it.

*Hold her hands, squeeze it tenderly and tell her "You are everything I ever wanted".

*Whisper sweet words into her ears tell her how beautiful she is and never forget to plant a kiss on her cheeks.

*Always buy her gifts no matter how little.

*Go for a long walk the beach or street at cool evening.

*Write her poetry as a text sms (creativity is necessary).

*Hugs are the universal medicine; never leave her without a hug.

*Look deep into her eyes hold her hands and tell her "I will cherish you till the world stands stills"(be sincere).

*Put love notes in her pocket when she isn't looking, telling her how you feel about her.

*Always hold her around her hips/waist especially from behind, when she doesn't expect.

*Take her for dinner once in a while and do the dinner for two deals.

*Even when at your work place, make out time to call and tell her "baby, I just squeezed out a little time out of my busy schedule to tell U that you mean everything to me, can't stop loving U".

*Let her fall asleep with her head on your laps or chest.

*Call from your vacation spot to tell her that U can’t just stop thinking about her.

*Remember your dreams and always share it with her.

*Be prince charming to her parents.

*Brush her hair out of her face for her.

*Attend church, fellowship and pray with her.

*Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the part she liked.

*Stand for her when someone talks trash about her.

*Cook for her sometimes or join her in the kitchen and keep her company when she cooks.

*Spend every possible second with her, be a good listener, observe her mood.

*Very lightly lift up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her "I can't wait to have a beautiful daughter with a beautiful pair of your eyes" and kiss her lips passionately.

*Always be keen on satisfying her sexual need first, don't just dose off when you think u are satisfied. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes and tell her "can't stop thanking u for coming into my world; just make my heart your home".

*Whenever she puts to bed (no matter the sex) always kiss her forehead and say "Thanks my love for this wonderful gift".

*Never forget the goodnight kiss and always remember to say sweet dreams.

STAR STEPH: Very little things matters to women, your action can bring out the beast or angel in a woman.

Written by Stephanie Ofoma (A special friend from Onitsha)

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HEART BROKEN? HERE IS HOPE

It’s much easier to just shun a beautiful notion such as love, than to accept our own faults and build the courage to give it another go.

More and more, I’ve noticed society has become rather nonchalant and dismissive of love and all that it entails. I find this is mostly because, well, we’ve all had some pretty crappy experiences and are now wondering if love is an idea or an actual, real-life experience.

It’s evident why we feel this animosity towards love, but is it rational?

The kind of love we’re used to is bonded with unrealistic and foolish expectations about achieving the ultimate happiness. In other words, it’s not love. The kind of love we love to hate is actually the falsely presumed one we’ve mashed up in our heads with our own premature experiences.

We, as individuals, are on this constant, tragic search for someone who fits a fixed criteria (that may or may not be obtainable), and we dismantle when it falls short. We fail to acknowledge that love doesn’t take requests; we get what we give.

Through certain junctures of our lives, however, we also learn and grow, which is exactly what we need.

For a moment, consider the power of destiny. A lot of you may be reading this right now and thinking, “Here we go. Yet another cryptic belief that is so utterly ridiculous.” And you’re right.

Destiny is pretty ridiculous and often times, incomprehensible. But, I challenge you to be more perceptive of your surroundings and recognize why you decided to go that specific mall, at that specific time and ended up running into a long-lost pal. Or, why you suddenly craved a pastry from your favorite coffee shop and swayed into conversation with that cute, bearded guy who openly admired your choice of carrot cake.

These events unfold, for better or for worse. No one can predict the intentions of others and oftentimes, we become blinded by the hate that we employ from the harmful ones. But, that’s the very magic of love: It takes no precautions. You either fall and are caught, you face plant to the ground or both.

Getting our hearts broken sucks and it’s difficult to not get caught up in a blame game or fall into an anti-love rampage. It’s much easier to just shun a beautiful notion such as love, than to accept our own faults and build the courage to give it another go.

Instead, we contemplate all seven deadly sins against our exes, in hopes that it’ll mitigate the hurt. We pinpoint every flaw of him or her and dissect what went wrong.

The ambiguous statuses and tweets begin to take a toll. You feel an overwhelming rage and want to hate every single thing about your ex, but you can’t. Those once adored parts of that person will always seem to stand out against the bad ones.

So next time you begin to feel that loathing venom grip your heart, think about the strength you obtained from that breakup. Think about the lesson(s) you grasped from that assh*le who decided to toy with you and your feelings, and about how much better off you are because of that.

Most importantly, think about how much you learned about yourself, despite the pain your ex may have caused you. Once you’ve reflected, all you’ll feel for the schmuck is gratitude.

Like anything else that resonates within us, love has its quirks but it also has its perks. A bigger reality of love, however, is that we gain so much more than we lose. We gain hope, and that hope fuels a better you.

You can gag now.

by Sofia Mobili

 




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RELATONSHIP ISN'T A SPORT... SO, STOP KEEPING SCORES!

It’s so tempting, when we’re disappointed or frustrated with our relationship, to turn into the play-by-play commentator.  “I did the cleaning and the shopping,” we say on an over-scheduled weekend.  “You just did one errand.”  Or “I initiated sex three times this month and you only did twice.”  Or “We’re way over budget this month but you splurged on those pricey new boots so I’m booking my weekend in Vail.”

Who wins?  It’s a race to the bottom.

Researchers for Cornell’s Legacy Project asked 1500 older people “What are the most important lessons you have learned over the course of your life?”  They conducted extensive interviews on a variety of topics, including the secrets of a successful marriage.

These elders were emphatic that marriage is not a 50-50 proposition.  One man said both partners need to be giving 100 percent all the time.  (Tall order).  Kay, a seventy-something married 54 years, described it as 90-10.  “Sometimes you’re on the 90,” she observed, “and sometimes you’re on the 10.”  One partner is ill for a while, or just has a tough day, and that one is on the receiving end.  Hours or days or months later, the tables turn.

It’s a give and take.  That’s why turning into a World Cup announcer is not a good way to make a championship marriage.  As soon as we start counting who’s done what, we have pulled away from a mutual relationship with our partner and begun instead to criticize and judge them.  Usually at that point our partner puts on an emotional helmet.  Whether they get defensive or fall into stony silence, they stop listening.

We get better results if we stay on the field, building and nurturing our relationship.  Often we need to call a time-out to calm ourselves down when we’re upset.  When we’re ready to talk, instead of tearing each other down, we huddle.  We’re open to each other’s ideas.  And we let each other know we appreciate the effort.

Does this mean holding back on situations that concern or anger us?  Certainly not!  But instead of calling penalties on our partner, we talk in a gentle, non-threatening way.  “I’m exhausted on the weekends.  I’d like us to build some relaxation into the schedule and I need your help.”  Or “When you initiate sex, I feel desired and loved.”  (That’s if you are married) Or “Let’s sit down and sort out our finances so we can plan some big purchases.”

When we talk clearly and honestly, without blaming, the game changes.  Before long, we start to feel like a team. That way everybody wins.

by Jean Fitzpatrick and Originally Published at TherapistNYC.com

 




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A FATHER'S LETTER TO HER DAUGHTER ABOUT VRGINITY!

Open Letter to My Daughter on Her Birthday

Dear Zip,

On this occasion of your birthday, I wish to discuss with you a very important issue parents (especially fathers) hardly have the courage to discuss with their daughters; the issue of virginity. I know you won't be embarrassed because this is not the first time I discuss issues like this with you. 

Remember in one of my previous letters, I told you that, unlike the boy child, the girl-child has some of her sex organs inside her body. One of these internal sex organs is the vagina. The vagina is the passage leading from the woman’s womb to the outside of her body. Zip, my daughter, it may interest you to know, that from birth, a piece of tissue or membrane called hymen covers the opening of the vagina leaving just a small opening that is typically the size of a finger. It is through this small opening that the menstrual blood and the clear or whitish vaginal secretions are discharged. The Yorùbás of southwest Nigeria call this material element (the hymen) ibale.

1. Hymen and Virginity:

Zip, in the past, the hymen was synonymous to virginity. This was because the hymen was the visible evidence that the young lady is a virgin. Then, virginity tests were conducted for young ladies by checking for the hymen. If the hymen was found intact, the young woman was said to be a virgin but if the hymen had broken the lady is said to have been de-virginized. 

In recent times, however, the old practice of checking for a woman’s hymen to determine if she is a virgin is being thrown out. There are about two reasons for this. One, medical science has established the fact that some women are born without fully intact hymens while some are born with no hymens at all. Two, it has also been discovered that the membrane is so thin that it often breaks by itself with normal physical activity like running, gymnastic or horseback riding. Hence, there is a need for a better understanding of the concept called virginity.

2. Better Understanding of Virginity:

Virginity, better understood, has two elements. The first is the material element which the hymen stands for. The presence of this material element simply suggests that the young lady has not had penile-vaginal intercourse. That is, her vagina has not been penetrated sexually.

The second element of virginity is called the formal element. This formal element involves total abstinence from any form of voluntary, intentional or deliberate sexual pleasure. Thus, to be a virgin does not only mean abstinence from penile-vaginal intercourse but it also mean abstinence from any act that could lead to sexual arousal and pleasure such as sexual kissing, masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, sex chatting, phone sex or any other kinds of sex. Consequently, Zip, my daughter, it is possible for a young lady to have her material virginity (the hymen) intact and still be a sexual-immoral because it is possible to have sexual pleasure without penile-vaginal intercourse. Do you understand that? The moment a young lady experienced sexual pleasure, in whatever form, her virginity is gone. She could no longer claim to be innocent; whereas, virginity means innocence. It means inexperience.

With this understanding, therefore, virginity is not just the presence of the hymen but a “state or condition of being pure, fresh, or unused” as well as a state of sexual innocence and inexperience. Thus, a virgin then, is not just a person who has her hymen intact; rather, she is a person who is sexually untouched, unblemished, uncorrupted, spotless, inexperienced, innocent, and naive.

Zip, keep your innocence till you are married. Happy birthday!

Your Loving Dad,
'Tunde

Written by ‘Tunde Alabi of FHL Family Life Network

 




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