WHO SAYS YOUR WEDDING DRESS MUST BE WHITE?

WHO SAYS YOUR WEDDING DRESS MUST BE WHITE?

In my previous article titled: WEDDING: THE FACT, THE MYTH AND MEANING OF THE WHITE WEDDING GOWN; where I submitted that white wedding dress is of whatever value we place on it, I have since been confronted by some people who think that without the bride wearing the generally accepted white wedding dress, the wedding is not WHITE or CHRISTIAN! What a delusion! The purpose of the a fore-mentioned article is to help the youth especially the ladies realize the beginning of the WHITE wedding dress through objective historical background and cultural developments and be able to draw conclusions themselves. But it is like there is need for a more direct approach to helping us realize what is practical and in line with our Faith.

Some days back a young man mail me informing me of his intention to ‘marry’ his fiancé without plans for going to church. He told me that they will just go for customary introduction and paid the Bride-price (or Pride-price), and just bring her home afterwards. When I ask why, he said the need to set-up, and still maintains the family necessitate that he do it that way or else he will have to wait for years. When I still insisted on going to church he said, “Bros, don’t you know that guys don’t want to do church wedding again, it’s a pack of lies!”

 

Now I realize that too many people have put too much importance to the WHITE in the wedding dress even more than the WEDDING BIBLE and the Pastoral blessing! The white wedding dress has come to mean purity (especially as Baptist have taught their Girls and Ladies), so brides grew up dreaming, fantasizing and preferring to wear it as a declaration of a sort to the church that they are STILL pure, even when over 80% of those that wear it to receive the pastoral blessing aren’t pure whatsoever but just to keep the appearance. Such people are among those who will vehemently frown at the issue of not using the white wedding dress. But Sister, if you know you want it so badly why not live a life worthy of it?  Oops its’ no mistake... but choice! 

I used to believe that white wedding gown means purity but last ten years had taught me that, that isn’t so. And in the last one year I have come to believe that a white wedding dressing now means, “thank God, My secret is covered!” or “at least this is my first time of getting married!” this actually prompted me to search for the practices over years and come to understand that colours means different thing in each culture. But when has the Church came to accept white as the official Colour for the bride wedding dress?

Queen Victoria decided to wear what she adore on her wedding day in 1840, but then when many saw it, especially the colour, a new trend was born. In time the church embraced this trend for religious reasons: baptism, especially in Catholic Church, they wear white gowns; also at Confirmations which is the act of pledging their faith and thus becoming full acting members of the church, white is the dress to wear. Therefore a white dress has become the accepted garment worn by women when they are making religious vows, marriage being one. But it must be noted that this is the case for both male and female!

What this means to a modern bride is that YOU ARE FREE TO WEAR ANY COLOUR YOU WANT. As a matter of fact, few brides these days actually wears a TRUE white dress, even though they believe it to make their wedding ‘white’ and ‘Christian’, true white dress according to Courtney of onewed.com doesn’t look good on many skin tones and instead such brides go for ivory, beige, and off-white not counting other shades of whites that is available (in the light of this Queen Victoria white dress will only pass as cream or ivory).

As far as I know there is no church that refuses to join the couple base on the colour of the bride’s wedding dress! According to answers obtained from AskACatholic.com, (catholic being the most strict about religious vows) there is no church law against wedding dress colour because customs vary from place to place.

The Pentecostals will want to use Rev. 19:8 as the basis for the bride wearing white as an ideal. But I believe that the context talk of the righteousness given to the bride as an act of grace by Christ Himself, but here the bride’s white wedding dress has been taken to mean a declaration of one’s righteous/purity state! More so, I stand to be prove wrong, most people that wear white wedding dress now aren’t sexually pure but hiding to keep face under this lie in the church! Why keep this lies on in the church? When will this lies stop at the altar of God, just because we read and attach too much importance to White? The physical purity should be encouraged and celebrated but surely this white dress and veil is a bag of lies the church and the ladies must kick out of our believe system, except we can have more better ways of showing the class!

Some tradition even said that someone remarrying for second may not wear white and must not use veil as veil means that the bride is still a Virgil as at the time of the wedding, but sincerely if we have to be truthful to this “Church tradition” how many do you think really qualify to wear the white and the veil? Then white make all this noise about every bride wearing white or it isn’t Christian marriage?

 


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