There’s a reason
you’re attracted to certain people. One of those reasons is whether or not that
person is masculine or feminine. We’re most
strongly sexually attracted to people who have the opposite sexual
essence of our own. This is not a male-female thing (you can be a man who
identifies as more feminine, and vice versa); it’s more about energy. What this means is
that the traits that make you distinctly masculine are the traits that attracts
the feminine the most.
By no means am I
saying that as a man, you must have these qualities to
appear attractive to a female. Nor am I saying that every woman is going to
want a man with the qualities that I describe below. But I’m saying that a lot
of women do.
1.
Presence
There is something
about a man who is present that is just flat-out irresistible to a woman.
There’s no getting around it; it’s just true.
What I mean when I
say presence is your ability to be consciously connected to the here and now.
A woman can
feel your presence when you listen to her. She
can feel your presence when you are deeply engaged in a task that’s important
to you. She can feel your presence when you’re connected to your core.
Presence is a
practice. It’s something you can get better at. Culturally, we’re in an
epidemic of not being present; we find many ways to distract ourselves all day
long. But if you want to learn to be more present, you can! The easiest way to
do so is to start a meditation practice. Meditation will train you to connect
to the here and now.
2. Purpose
A man with a
purpose in life is hot.
Your purpose can
be any number of things. It can be to change the world. It can be to push your
body to its limits. It can be to build a business or build homes. It can be to
be to make art, or to be the kindest person you know.
It’s not about
what your purpose is (although, honestly, the more it benefits humanity, the
better — but that’s just my opinion). What matters is that you have a purpose
or that you’re in the process of discovering it.
If you don’t feel
connected to your purpose yet, the best way to find it is to ask yourself what
you’re most passionate about. Your purpose is usually about sharing your
passion with the world.
3.
Direction
With purpose comes
direction. Purpose is knowing what you are here to do and direction is doing it.
The feminine
essence is more an essence of feeling and being. Yes, we do things (most of us
do a lot!). But we’re very attracted to men who get things done. He
has a plan, and he’s taking steps (even small ones) to accomplish it. This
is a man’s direction.
Your clear
direction makes the feminine feel safe. If she knows that you can navigate well
on your own, then she has more room to relax in your presence. She doesn’t have
to show you how to do it, because you already know how. (We like that.)
4. Honesty
and trust
Obviously, trust
and honesty are important qualities in all relationships. Trust comes from
acting in honest ways, but the definition goes beyond that. What I mean when I
say trust is, can a woman trust that you’re being honest with
yourself?
One of the distinct
feminine qualities is intuition — and with our intuition comes the ability to
sense your BS from a mile away.
When you learn to
be deeply honest with yourself (about your struggles, shortcomings, challenges,
strengths, all of it), then a woman will feel your integrity. And she’ll trust
you, too.
5. Humor
As you already
know, humor is at the top of every woman’s list for a potential partner. But
why is this? Because humor has the ability to lighten a mood!
The feminine gets
bogged down with her emotions, as well as her to-do lists. This is very
stressful for us! If you can make a woman laugh, it’s a gateway to flow. Women
are very grateful for your ability to add joy and light to day-to-day life.
For all you men
out there, keep in mind that your masculinity is a gift, to your partner and to
the world. It is part of what makes you uniquely you. We appreciate the ways
you’re different from us.
This article originally appeared on MindBodyGreen.
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