4 Ways to Not Lose a
Good Girl
WARNING:
Get comfortable in a relationship, and it will die. Let me repeat that, get
com-for-ta-ble in a relationship, and it-will-die. It may not be quickly, but
eventually the inevitable will happen. Your wife, or girlfriend will get the
courage, wake up, and walk away, and you will have no idea why (at least that
is what your brain will tell you).
When
you are finally honest with yourself and see the mistakes in hindsight, it
will be too late. She will be with someone that makes an effort every day to
put a smile on her face. Here are four steps that will show your partner that
she made the right choice.
1. Show
her that you have her back, and make her a priority.
Notice
that I didn’t say “tell” her, boys talk about what they are going to do. Men
just do it. Showing her that you have her back with the small stuff in life
will build her trust, and she won’t have any doubts that you will be there when
something big goes down. Pay attention to detail, and be helpful when and where
you can be. No matter how busy you are, she should never feel neglected.
TAKE
ACTION: If you notice she is running late to work, offer to bring her some
lunch. If you were married, if she is doing chores around the house, get off
the Xbox and help her, so things get done faster. Offer to take the kids to
school so that she can sleep in.
2. Show
an interest in something that doesn’t interest you.
No
matter how compatible two people are, it’s very unlikely that they will share
100% of the same interests. Find something that she likes, and make an effort
to learn about why she enjoys it and plan something special around it. Who
knows, maybe you will find that this activity excites you as well.
TAKE
ACTION: If she loves romance movies, get some suggestions on a good one, cook
her favorite meal, and serve it to her. Then, have a movie night with a bottle
of wine. If you are not into the movie, act like you are and give her a foot
massage.
3.
Never tell her she is too emotional.
You may
not realize it now, but emotions are a good thing. It means she cares, and that
you are not getting it. When you consistently tell her she is too emotional,
she will start to believe there is something wrong with her, and then she will
kill those emotions, and drop you in the process.
TAKE
ACTION: This one is pretty easy, don’t do it! She is emotional because she
cares, don’t make her feel like there is something wrong with her. Be painfully
honest with yourself, and realize the problem is with you. And, even if it’s
not, be a man and make an effort to understand her point of view. Try to be
accommodating. It’s not about who is right or wrong.
4. Make
sure her friends and family think you are superman.
Not
everyone will get along with some friends or family, I get that. The question
you need to ask yourself is: “How long can I go without messing up,” Let me
educate you, “forever” is not the right answer. I don’t care how perfect you
think you are; you’re going to mess up, and guess who she is going to talk
about it with?
That’s
right, her friends and family. If your relationship with them is poor, they are
going to be the first ones to tell her “I told you so.” And, “You need to get
rid of him and find a real man” But you are reading this, and it doesn’t have
to go down like that. Her friends, and family can be your biggest supporters
when she is contemplating locking up those emotions, and kicking you to the
curb.
TAKE
ACTION: Get to know her friends, and family inside, and out. Any guy can
remember a woman’s birthday, but if you unexpectedly do something nice for a
friend or family member’s birthday, you will be elevated to superstar status.
Performed
consistently, these steps can give you the edge over the other guys that are
out there learning the hard way. You can be confident that you are improving
yourself as a person.
If you
are a woman reading this, and you feel your significant other is not up to par,
pass these quick tips along to them. If they don’t get the hint, don’t waste
your life; find someone who puts you first, and who is genuinely trying to be a
good person.
You
might be (insert your age) now, but in the blink of an eye, you will wake up
and find that you are (add 10 years to your age), unhappy, and looking at the
same guy playing Xbox every day. All while you are doing the chores alone,
being a spectator to good relationships around you. Get out and find a good man,
because you do not have enough time in your life to make one.
Written by Brandon Luke
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