HEY GIRL... DON'T BE DECIEVED!

DON’T BE DECEIVED: TOTAL TRUTH ABOUT MENSTRUAL CRAMPS

Majority of ladies especially teenagers have fallen prey of the issue am about to discuss due to the wrong advice. The issue is common among teenage girls and matured ladies which is menstrual cramps or menstrual pain. Many have been ill advice to have sex; they were advice that having sex will stop the pain or cramps and many had started having sex because of it.

I once heard of a story of a lady. She usually experience pains when she is menstruating, one day when the pain was so severe and even beyond the control of her room mates at her school, they decided to take her to a hospital. The doctor they met ask what was wrong and they explain her ordeal, next the doctor ask if she was a virgin and “Yes” was the answer. After she was placed on medication and injections, the doc. advice was shocking: she should start having sex if she wants the pains to stop! Ladies will you be lured into having sex due to menstrual cramps when you are not married? Before you follow that advice, please continue your reading!

YOUR GUIDE TO MENSTRUAL CRAMPS

Dysmenorrhoea is the medical term for the painful cramps that may occur immediately before, or during the menstrual period. There are two types of dysmenorrhoea, primary and secondary dysmenorrhoea.

Primary dysmenorrhoea is another name for common menstrual cramps. Cramps usually begin one or two years after a female child start having her period. Pain is usually felt in the lower abdomen or back. They can be mild or severe. Common menstrual cramps often start shortly before or at the onset of the period and continue one to three days. The pain become less painful as a woman has her first Baby.

Secondary dysmenorrhoea is pain caused by a disorder in the woman’s reproductive organs. These cramps usually begin earlier in the menstrual cycle and last longer than common menstrual cramps.

SYMPTOMS

*      Aching pain in the abdomen (pain can be severe at times).

*      Feeling of pressure in the abdomen.

*      Pain in the hips, lower back and inner thigh. 

When Cramps are Severe Symptoms may includes:

*      Upset stomach, sometimes with vomiting

*      Loose stools.

ÞNon-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) are commonly used to treat cramps.

ÞPhysical exercise can help alleviate menstrual cramps too.

 Dear ladies, from the above understanding about primary dysmenorrhoea which is “The pain become less painful as a woman has her first Baby”... and possibly gone totally after subsequent child bearings, it is therefore safe to advice you not to be forced through mis-advise or lured into having sex while you are not married... and don’t even let this rush you into getting married!

 

If you guess it might not be primary dysmenorrhoea, then contact a medical expert for proper examination and treatment.

Bottom line: Having Sex doesn’t reduce menstrual pain, giving birth only makes it become less painful!

Written by Mrs. Abosede Olu-Thomas

edited.

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REASONS YOU MIGHT NEED TO CONSIDER SETTLING DOWN... (2)

 Here’s what happens when you find the right relationship.

Here are 6 things that happens in the right relationship:

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1. You will expand your horizons...

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2. You will always have a cheerleader...

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3. Their love will make you more confident...

 

Continued from part one...

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4. Someone loves you for you.

When we are single and dating, there is often times a pressure to always be our best self, especially when meeting someone new. Now, of course we always want to be learning, improving, and being our best when we are in a relationship also, but there is a flexibility and freedom to also just be you and know that someone will love and accept it just the same.

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5. You always have someone to talk to.

We all need to vent every once in awhile, even if we don’t like to admit it. Sure, we can talk to friends or family, but opening up to the man or woman you love just feels different, especially when you know they will listen and support you unconditionally. Also, you know they will be honest and set you straight when you need it.

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6. Events and traveling become more exciting. 

Whether it be a company party or a trip to Europe, knowing you get to experience these things with the person you love will immediately enhance the experience in a way that going by yourself or with a platonic friend just…wouldn’t.

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The real beauty of a relationship is when you are two separate individuals, but are united as one. You have someone who loves and accepts you as you are today, but also motivates and encourages you to continue improving and becoming your best.

You have a built in support system and teammate in life. We should stop thinking of significant others as a “ball and chain” that drags us down, and start thinking of them as a hot air balloon that brings us to new heights we wouldn’t have seen before.

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This article originally appeared on James Michael Sama’s blog

Your views and thoughts are most welcome...

KEEP OFF... VIRGINS NOT NEEDED!

Guys nowadays don't want virgins as their girl-friend and I hate virgins too but I end up marrying one!

Why don't I desired to #Marry virgins?

1. I can't stand hurting a woman I love deliberately- Am too soft for that.

2. To scare us away from #premarital_sex, we were expose to the blood covenant side of it and I became a champion of it.

3. I love being a lady's #champion. So I desire to show mercy & love to a disflowered & rejected girl than having #pride for marrying a virgin.

4. I don't want the so call attachment a lady has for her first.

These were simply #my_thoughts growing up... And virgins were much more appreciated and had a huge bragging rights in the society.

But now...

Being a #Virgin has now become a #disease every young girl want to be cured of #ASAP [As Soon As Possible]. 70% of guys don't 'do' virgins because of either of the blood covenant or the attachment a lady always have for her first... Too bad many ladies are giving this up so easily! Imagine some were even luring guys to have their first sex or they pretend they were no virgins to guys just to have the firstie!

Day by day guys' interest in marrying a virgin is reducing because a lot of ladies are telling (or even showing) them it is impossible. And those that place a #premium on #virginity are tagged #old_school and were seriously jeered.

Is it a sin now to desire the best quality?

Is it out of place to want Brand new things?

Generally speaking: The respect a brand new car attracted can never be experienced by the highest grade of fairly use! Yes #Tokunbo! So why no or little respect for virgins?

Spare me the scrap of character... It is character that makes one keep her virginity!

Yes, I know you lose yours forcefully or against your will but yet that's no excuse for talking down people who keep theirs. There is nothing like second virginity but there is #self_worth and #self_discipline not to lower your value any longer. My message is for you girl... you still get Value!

Guys that don't want virgins now are doing so because they want a lady that can allow them anytime & without attachment! So such ladies are just an object of pleasure! There is deliberately no future or long-term plan or commitment plan on  their agenda! they don't want virgins because they want sex without the responsibility of marriage

#Wise_up_girl!

You can Commit to a life of purity by determining to take up this life of commitment... kindly write out this vow and sign it and live according to it. May the Lord bless you as you do so.

"In the light of who God is, what Christ has done for me, and who I am in Him, From this day forward I....................................................... Commit myself to Him in the lifelong pursuit of #Purity. By His Grace, I will continually present myself to Him as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God."

Signature.............................................

Date.....................................................

#oluthomas

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IF YOU ARE A GENTLEMAN, HERE IS A CHALLENGE FOR YOU!

Dear Gentlemen or Gentlemen to be,

There is an unfortunate stigma that revolves around society which tells us that women don’t appreciate good men. That if you want to get a woman’s attention, you’ve got to be a jerk. Or, even worse, the supporting stigma out there is that good men are becoming harder and harder to actually find.

Because of this, fewer and fewer men are putting in the effort to be ‘good’ because they don’t think their efforts will be noticed. We can easily see how the cycle begins: Men do not think women appreciate good guys, so fewer guys act in this way, causing women to become convinced there are no good men left. Rinse, repeat.

The other day I put a status up on my personal Facebook page, it was the following:

I believe men are understanding that a beautiful face means nothing without a beautiful heart and a beautiful mind. Good, mature, established men are recognizing the value of having a teammate in life. Someone he can take on the world with. Someone he can share ideas and discuss life with. Someone who can stand on her own and is with him because she wants him, not because she needs him.

The interesting thing about it was that out of about 30 comments, only one of them was from a man – the rest were from women asking where they can actually find men who think in this way. I was hoping for other men to step in and back me up. To confirm what I was saying is true. To tell the multiple women commenting that we do, in fact, want to find someone with these qualities.

No such luck.

Needless to say, when I write articles and quotes I write them from my own personal perspective. I write from the heart and according to what I really think and believe. In turn, I write on behalf of the good men out there who think and feel the same things that I do. Unfortunately, though, I am beginning to face more and more challenges from this.

Mostly, challenges from women. The “Where are these men?” comments are not exclusive to this one post. They happen often, any time I write something from the male perspective suggesting that we love and appreciate mature, driven, intelligent women. They happen when I write about how men crave depth and integrity in women. I am frequently questioned by women who possess these qualities but feel eternally unappreciated.

The truth is, guys, you’re starting to make a liar out of me. I know I cannot be the only one of us out there willing to voice these feelings on the topic.

Men, I know many of you out there feel unappreciated too. I know you have great qualities and are kindhearted, genuine, and giving. So, this makes me wonder, are you hiding these traits for fear of putting yourself out there and being unappreciated? Are you just saying you want a teammate in life but in reality just want a woman to follow you around like a puppy dog?

The fact of the matter is that good men and women are out there – but they feel as though their attributes go overlooked and therefore stop displaying them to the world. We should never allow someone’s lack of appreciation of us alter our nature. Our value and self worth comes from within, not from the approval of others; that’s why it’s called self worth.

Women want to believe you still exist.

They want romance, courtship, chivalry, and respect.

They want your love and your loyalty.

And they want to give you all of these things in return.

Stay strong, stay positive, and stay true to yourself – the right woman will love everything about you that the wrong women took for granted.

Stand up, gentlemen. The women of the world are looking for you.

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This article originally appeared on James Michael Sama’s Blog.

Your views and thoughts are most welcome...

REASONS YOU MIGHT NEED TO CONSIDER SETTLING DOWN... FOR THOSE WHO FEAR SETTLING DOWN! (1)

Here’s what happens when you find the right relationship.

A few years ago, I didn’t think much about being in a relationship. Not that I was against the concept, but I was young and a little crazy and doing some work in nightlife, so commitment just wasn’t on my radar. But even then, there was always that hope in the back of my mind that the next person I was introduced to could turn into something real.

Then, it happened. And for almost two years, it was great.

As I have gotten a little older and experienced what comes along with being in a relationship at this age, the more I see the great parts of it that most pop-culture doesn’t seem to acknowledge. People talk about being “held back” or “weighed down” or talking about “settling down” in such a negative way that nobody would want to do it. But the right relationship with the right person is supposed to enhance your life and your experiences, not complicate them.

Here are 7 reasons being in a relationship doesn’t suck at all.

(I know I will get a little backlash from people saying you don’t need a relationship to be happy. Of course you don’t, but you’ll find the points below are designed to eliminate a negative stigma towards commitment or relationships).

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You will expand your horizons.

When two different people with two different histories and two different viewpoints come together in a relationship, you can’t help but be exposed to new ideas and experiences. You may not typically be interested in the arts or a night at the theater, or a day of rock climbing or yoga — but you will likely be much more open to the new experience if the man or woman you loves wants to share their passion with you.

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You will always have a cheerleader.

Sometimes it’s hard to stay positive and motivated through hard times or discouragements. It may be something personal, professional, or both. The great thing about being with the right person for you is that they will be your beacon of light during the darkness. They will support and encourage you along your path, while you do the same for them. They can help brighten your day in ways that you may not be able to do on your own.

Plus, the encouragement you receive from the man or woman you love will have a different feeling than support from a family member or a friend.

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Their love will make you more confident.

There is something about knowing that the person you love loves you back – that puts an extra pep in your step. You’ll know you’ve found the right person when their mere presence in your life makes you want to become the best version of yourself that you can, and you will have the confidence to make it happen.

To be continue...

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