MARITAL CHOICE MAKING: FAITH ISN'T AN OPTION!

SOME THINGS NEED TO BE THROWN AWAY IN THAT LIST OF POSSIBLE MATCH BUT NOT YOUR FAITH!

 

Its not enough that your date/partner believe in God;

but he/she must know & believe in God the way you do.

Yes it may reduce your possible match pool,

but that will make you focused and avoid a potential crises on the future.

According to Christine B. Whelan in her book

"WHY SMART MEN MARRY SMART WOMEN"

74% of single woman & 71% of single men would be willing to marry someone of different faith.

Many people because of their age and their narrowed pool of possible match are letting faith fly.

But I must tell you that it is harder to be with people who are nonbelievers... outside your faith.

It is a fallacy that we serve the same God,

because if we serve the same God why worship him not only different ways but in CONFLICTING ways. The plain truth is we aren't serving the same GOD.

SO IF YOU HAVE SWALLOW THAT LIE THAT

"YOU JUST LOOK FOR A SPIRITUAL BASE IN HIM/HER"

IT'S TIME MAY HAVE TO RECONSIDER IT.

THE TRUTH IS...

IF YOU STOP PRACTICING YOUR RELIGION BECAUSE OF HIM OR HER... YOU WONT BE THE SAME PERSON AGAIN...

Your religion/faith is part of what made you up.
What makes you who you are. Never lose it.
As a christian you are not suppose to be unequally yoked with someone outside your faith... Especially in marriage.

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PAST HURTS: BURIED OR HEALED?

HOW FREE ARE YOU OF YOUR PAST?

Past is a fact that must be dealt with & which we must come to terms with.

Many people will say they dont have problem with the past... yet the dont want to discuss it because they are trying to forget it or bury it.... but surely the best to deal with a hurting past is not through burial or sealed lips... time dont heal.. it only breeds bitterness.

The best way is not not talking about it... I always encourage talking about the hurting past because I learnt of the therapeutic effect it has on the soul and mind. but reading Genesis 1:1-3 I discover the reason it works. Talking of the past hurt is a sign of healing and deliverance and or a new beginning. God shared the past hurt and chaos the Earth has experienced with Moses because as at the time they were having the discussion through revelation ... the past is GONE and all has become new. Genesis reads... In the beginning God created a beautiful heaven and the earth. but the earth became void... without form and darkness covers the beauty... but the Spirit of God move over the chaos trying to do something about it... and God speak about it and ask light to appear and it appear. This is the beginning of the re-creation of the earh.

God speak and the past hurt leaves.... because the Holy spirit want the past to be turned around... He hovered over it. You need the HOLY spirit to explain your hurting past to and thereby hear God speak and heal and remold your hurt to a beautiful life like Eden again.

MY CONCLUSION IS THIS...

 

IF ANYONE DIDN'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT THEIR PAST HURT... TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS.... IT IS A CLEAR INDICATION THAT THEY ARE YET TO BE DELIVERED OF IT TOTALLY OR THAT THERE ISN'T SOMETHING NEW ABOUT THE OLD ISSUE!

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A FATHER'S LETTER TO HIS UNBORN DAUGHTER

LETTER TO MY BABES

What a delicate masterpiece you are!
Your composition is super classic,
even the Sons of God(fallen angels) could not resist you.
Even God wasn't satisfied until He has made you!

The material for your makeup wasn't just dust or clay,
 you were made from a refined product: a man's rib!
When a rib is broken, it affects breathing, how much more when it is removed?!
And that is significant to me.
You were not from a man's foot to be trodden,
nor from his head to control him but from his heart to inspire him and keep him alive.

When 1Peter 3:7 says a woman is a weaker vessel,
it doesn't mean you are inferior...it means you are delicate and fragile.
You can't be thrown around, you can't be mishandled.
Most often, delicate materials are more expensive!
 When God was done making you,
He wrapped you with a warning:
FRAGILE! HANDLE WITH CARE

 Physically fragile but internally strong!
Who has a job, cook, clean the house, handles the laundry and takes care of her kids?
Who has to put up with mother in-law, sister in- law, brother in-law wahala?
Who faces series of heartbreak yet not broken?
Molested, insulted and abused, yet kind hearted!

It amazes me, how she faces all these without losing her composure.
She must be strong!!!
Dear babe, you are special, your kind is rare.
Prov.18:22 says whoever finds you, obtains favour from God.
You are not lucky to be his girl, he is favoured to find you.

In 2014, with your heels on, your shoulders raised, your laps closed...
Tell yourself I won't be molested, insulted nor abused!
I know my worth, I know my Lord and I know my love.

With love Soji David Lawal


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IF HAVING BABIES IS A PRIORITY, CONSIDER YOUR AGE!

MAKE BABIES ON TIME!

 
In almost all cultures and in different part of the world, Marriage & Children go hand in hand; therefore one cannot take it with levity.

This write-up is therefore for ladies & the guys that love them to think, plan & prepare for it as they go in this new year.

There is this trend if waitibg for some years after marriage before having babies nowadays... though its not too common in Africa where after few months (4-5) into the marriage people are already looking for the result of the consumation of the wedding. But whatever the reason for delay in having babies YOU HAVE TO START CONSIDERING YOUR AGE!




Apart from my own dislike about the idea of having to take kids to school at over 50yrs of age in the future when others are enjoying their retirement and early empty nest for a fresh, new romantic married life; there are other dangers.

Another Chat

A woman is in her optimal fertility phase between ages 18 & 28.
There is 94% chance that a healthy 25 -29 year old woman can become pregnant, & 70% chance that a healthy 35 -39 year old woman can become pregnant. After 40, fertility decreases dramatically ... & by age 45, only 5% of women are still fertile.



All doctors agree... if having children is a priority doing so in your 20s or early 30s is much more advisable than waiting until your late 30s or beyond.
Be Wise!


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HOW TO BECOME THE BEST HUSBAND OF THE YEAR

DO THESE AND YOU WILL BE THE BEST HUSBAND OF THE YEAR

 

There are so many pressure... majorly from within and without to become a family man but i am afraid of failing... but my pastor preached and ask us to prayerfully calculate our chances so I put what it will cost me down to be the BEST HUSBAND TO A WOMAN IN THE WORLD...

I have consulted married and most especially the women.

1. To be the best man you must TRUST the intelligence of your woman: DISCUSS ISSUES ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND HOME WITH HER FIRST.. NOT WITH YOUR FRIENDS or FAMILY MEMBERS no matter how close you are.

2. LISTEN TO HER: No matter how boring she is, create time to listen ANYTIME she want to talk with you.

3. REFUSE TO GET ANGRY WITH HER MADNESS: Never shout at her in discussion let alone raise a hand against her. yes she will offend you and sometimes be too sturborn but you wont beat her for it, or teach her a lesson of her life for it. Rather you will show more care and understanding.

4. AT LEAST ONCE IN A MONTH... DO SOMETHING ROMANTIC TOGETHER: The danger of having babies is neglecting your spouse just to pay attention to your kids. but to be the best, you will create moment that is only for You and Your wife... THIS IS WHAT I CALL CONTINUOUS dating.

5. APRECIATE HER: Its easy to apreciate a woman... words and little gifts presented in with genuine truthful heart is enough. you dont have to buy her over but little things at special occasions.

 DO THIS AND YOU WILL BE THE BEST MAN FOR YOU WIFE THIS YEAR. 

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